Yes, for years, I had an aversion to, at times, my own "niceness" that's, not so much, as in Tarren's case, being manipulative & strategising for secondary gain, but more, frustration with hesitation to take courage ...
Courage to make hard decisions that could result in the person feeling let down by me.
Being "nice" in this case, is not helpful either, as often, God has had to "disappoint" us for reasons He knows, is best & is needed ....
Yes, for years, I had an aversion to, at times, my own "niceness" that's, not so much, as in Tarren's case, being manipulative & strategising for secondary gain, but more, frustration with hesitation to take courage ...
Courage to make hard decisions that could result in the person feeling let down by me.
Being "nice" in this case, is not helpful either, as often, God has had to "disappoint" us for reasons He knows, is best & is needed ....
Yes, our hearts are sneaky that way. I call that type of niceness being a cooperative rebel. Amiable on the outside to keep peace.
This does nothing to help us grow, nor does it help us to live out discipleship with others.
Thank you for sharing that.
Indeed the wounds of a friend are faithful and the kisses of an enemy deceitful.